July 24, 2023
Some milestones are worth a deep breath. Starting your eighth decade is one. It came for Sandy this past Friday, between getting home from Philadelphia and a grinding interstate drive to the coast.
The important birthdays resurrect others. In 2021, from the Sunset Deck of the Grove Park Inn in Asheville, we peered out towards the Smokies and Tennessee. Last mid-July, during the weeks-long nationwide steambath, we stared at shimmering Lake Lure, a pretty patch of clear blue below Chimney Rock mountain near Bat Cave, N.C.
I put on a party for her 65th that our Virginia place. I recruited the kids and as many relatives and friends as I could fit in the house. That splendid little celebration set the stage for moving forward; we hope for more of them, after all.
A year later she spent her 66th in the ICU at a stroke center in Bryn Mawr, Penn. Although she can’t remember that Sunday morning, she was in the MRI chamber. It clanked away, scanning her brain. For months after we trooped to specialists for tests and prescriptions.
Four years later everything is different. We left the old world behind for the same reasons anyone does. The Virginia neighborhood seemed old—not scruffy, as if the houses up and down the block were shabbier, the lawns overgrown, the streets potholed. There was some of that. But it reminded us that we’re old. Thirty-three years is a long time in a place.
We saw the same reasons for leaving other retired people see: traffic gridlock that reaches from the interstate to local roads, relentless retail and residential growth, the property tax inflation, the panicky calculations old timers make about that dreary subject, property values.
Arriving here we could see the end of the Blue Ridge from our apartment complex. Virginia has its mountains, but the Shenandoahs are more of a tourist attraction. Here, the low sloping peaks are part of the city scenery. The pale blue horizon is an invitation to explore a wide swath of rugged, nearly empty country, of rushing forest creeks that explode over waterfalls, out to the spectacular fast-flowing Chattooga River next to Georgia.
Greenville is nestled near the northwest-extreme point of the South Carolina pie slice, the coastline being the wide edge. The place is booming, with tech-based industry that replaced the once-dominating textile mills, the low-wage employers that abandoned the area and sent their work and their capital to Asia.
The town doesn’t have a rich historical heritage. No decisive Civil War battles were fought here. Union troops only arrived after the rebels’ surrender, in pursuit of fugitive Jefferson Davis. The town still had to move forward. Somehow the mountain-piedmont remoteness brought people, and still does.
We came, the idea being to move forward. The family connection is here. Our closest ties, a daughter, son-in-law, and grandsons also are newcomers. They could leave. There must be something else. You like to think that the resettlement decision is final, that your reluctant move is the only one you’ll make.
Our rented place was a base for exploration. We headed to Walhalla, in the northwest corner of the state, beyond Clemson and the big lakes, Jocassee and Keowee. We drove up and down the main street and through neighborhoods of stately homes, and tramped through Oconee County’s three museums.

We drove through Easley, a little closer in, then Traveler’s Rest, a hamlet of cute shops linked to the city by the 25-mile Swamp Rabbit Trail. We headed north into the sticks, past gorgeous but remote rural places on wide stretches of property. Then we turned south and found giant new subdivisions going up in Simpsonville, Mauldin, and Fountain Inn.
We bought a kitchen table from a lady in one of those places, I can’t remember which. But the development resembles the same goings-on in Virginia, Maryland, anywhere else. The relentless home- and condominium-building, on lots bulldozed bare of nature, reprises the construction onslaughts of the 1950s Levittown builders. The difference here is the iridescent-red South Carolina clay that erupts wherever a shovel touches soil.
We looked north, south, east, west. We drove through the city’s pricey “historic districts” clustered north and east of downtown. The antebellum homes are set off by wide wraparound porches that invite the notion of a genteel life of coffee, mint juleps, and neighborly chats.
The city, like lots of others, is broken into subdivisions, all with names, as if a name is required by ordinance: They range from the ordinary, Riverside Glen and Merrifield Park, to the eclectic: Botany Woods, Avalon Reserve, The Brio, Montebello. I feel prizes should be given for names conveying a definitive upscale lilt.
Time didn’t stand still through all this. The apartment, near downtown, the hospital, and doctors’ offices, began to feel like home. We stared at the second bedroom, crammed to the ceiling with the furniture and boxes we don’t need but couldn’t part with. The househunting jaunts got shorter, more perfunctory. We walked through houses and condos and a couple of those “60 or better” ghettoes where bridge and now pickleball are the rage.
I had a birthday three months after the move but barely noticed. A nurse at the hospital recommended Waynesville, N.C., as a must-see. We drove to the “Gateway to the Smokies” and gazed at the brown mountains, some topped with snow. The Smokies air was bright and invigorating, as it is in Virginia’s Massanuttens. This might work for us, I thought.
We took the long way home on U.S. 276, the winding state road through the Pisgah National Forest. It still was cold when we stopped at lovely, thundering Looking Glass Falls. My teeth chattered as I snapped photos. Within a few miles, in Brevard, the road levels, the chill abates. Then the highway heads into the South Carolina peaks and more hair-raising turns and climbs.
A month later Sandy, not an excuse-maker like me, found a house. She looked at her checklist, jumped on the process, called the sales agent. We crossed Walhalla, Simpsonville, Waynesville and the rest off the list. This is her third birthday in this place. More to follow.








