July 22, 2024
We learned that Thomas Farrell had been murdered. The crime occurred in Nashville on May 29, 1913. Farrell, a police detective, was shot by a bad guy, who then was arrested. This and more news was reported two weeks ago at the Harper family reunion. Farrell was Sandy’s great uncle, or maybe a great-great uncle.
We drove for six hours to a state park in Tennessee to attend the gala event, a meeting of the Harper (Sandy’s maiden name) clan and two other families, the Maybrys and Pritchetts, who are distantly related. Of the sixty-plus folks who showed up under the park pavilion, I knew about a half-dozen.

In a cosmic, big-picture way, family is the foundation of human history and culture. Family connections dictate the form and function of governments worldwide. British history is a fifteen-hundred-year story of family, if we date from the Plantagenets (1154-1216), who reigned after the Normans, and were followed by the houses of Lancaster, York, Tudor, Stuart, down to Windsor today.
In the same way, the rule of the Bourbons and Romanovs, until ended by gruesome political violence, guided the histories of France and Russia for centuries. The consciousness and constraints of family hold in Asia, the Middle East, everywhere, for good or evil. No one escapes. Hermits, cloistered monks, and prison inmates serving life have families. For all of us, family may be a primal source of joy, or heartbreak.
Family ties endure, but for many they become strained and remote. American families—parents, siblings, children have scattered. Our oldest daughter is in New Orleans, the youngest lives in northern Wyoming. We have nieces in Seattle and cousins near Miami. A couple of cousins live in New York, and an uncle and more cousins in southern California. That’s life. Everyone knows it.
Sandy’s family actually bucked the trend. She has some family in Michigan on her mom’s side, whom I first met at a funeral last summer. One day they were there, the next day they were gone. The Harpers, though, mostly stayed in Tennessee within 20 or 30 miles of Nashville, where Sandy and I met all those years ago.
Twenty-five years ago my mom staged a reunion. It was the same type of thing—a blur of aunts, uncles, cousins and their children, stories, singing old favorites, a few drinks, for some more than a few. The older ones all are gone but the memories remain, which really was the point. The kids at that reunion have kids of their own. Grandkids have shown up.

The Harper gathering followed the pattern. One guy, first-cousin Mike, shouldered the work of putting it together. We knew he was interested in genealogy. Mike went all-out, creating whiteboards of the family tree complete with dozens of ancient photos and blurred copies of birth, marriage, and death certificates. He arranged the boards on tripods near some picnic tables.
The exhibits took us back to Michael Farrell, born in Logford County, Ireland, about 1840. Various documents report that in 1855 he stowed away and sailed to America. In 1861 he enlisted in the Confederate Army and fought at Shiloh and Murfreesboro, Tenn. He was wounded twice and discharged when the war ended.
In 1867 Michael married Bridgett Hollaran, who had come from Galway County, Ireland. They had ten children, including poor Sheriff Thomas. Michael bought land and farmed for a living. He died in Nashville in 1932.
From Mike’s research we learned that Michael’s and Bridgett’s daughter Annie, born in 1869, married John William Harper, a telegraph operator, in 1895, starting their Harper line. Annie and John had six kids, including Peter Gaines Harper, Sandy’s grandfather. Peter married a woman named Duel Sisco. They had five children, including Sandy’s dad, William.
Mike stopped there, but he could have gone down another level to Sandy and her siblings and their spouses. The next branch would be our kids and their cousins. He already has reserved the same pavilion at the same state park for another reunion next year. Maybe he’ll tack on those people.

We stood around chatting for hours, grazing on a massive potluck buffet. We met, with some confusion, a few Maybrys and Pritchetts, as well as the dozens of cousins, nephews, and nieces, fitting everyone into the family puzzle. We took pictures, someone took a big group shot. As the late afternoon heat simmered, the crowd packed their picnic baskets and folding chairs and headed for their cars. We stayed over at the park.
As with any family history, odd facts show up. Somewhere the documentation reported that John William Harper’s father, Peter Leboun Harper, fought with the Union Army. With Michael Farrell a Confederate veteran, we were looking at a blue-gray dynamic. How did Michael like his daughter marrying into a Yankee family? Trivial, but fun.
Our son Michael later asked what now seems an obvious question: since the Harper name didn’t show up until Annie married John Harper, why start with the Farrells, a generation earlier, instead of John William? I wondered myself.
But then we realize a family tree can start really anywhere because, like all human history, it has no clearcut beginning. Those patriarchs of the 18th century and earlier, nobles or paupers, landlords or tenant farmers, are descendants as well as ancestors. Annie, wife of John and mother to Sandy’s granddad and five other Harper children, was first a Farrell. Her earlier relatives were Farrells and others.
The line advances into the future. Louis XVI lost his head in 1793, but the Bourbons returned to rule France in 1815. Even after the Bolsheviks executed Tsar Nicholas and his family in 1918, a few Romanovs escaped to Europe. Their lineages remain, obscure, but real. People marry, have kids, change names.
Connections, while distant, endure. That’s the principle behind all this visiting. We’re already talking about who will appear on Mike’s 2025 whiteboards. Right now we’re planning to be there. Maybe with the kids.









